Dating Category

Mired deep in novel-writing angst

Still working on a book. I’m at the very beginning stages. It’s not easy. Struggling, as always, to find the heart of longing: the thing that the character most needs; the thing that really really really drives them. Oftentimes the heart of longing isn’t something that’s ever articulated in a book. It’s not the overt […]

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It wasn’t nearly as difficult to switch orientations as I thought it’d be

Until twenty-four, I identified as straight and dated nobody. From twenty-four to twenty-eight, I identified as gay, and dated only men. Now I identify as bisexual, and I’ve been dating a woman for six months. I’ll leave aside the mental struggle that underlay these switches in stated orientation, since I’m not really prepared to talk about […]

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