Socializing Category

I’ve learned the absolute best way to get invited to parties!

Throw some. There it is. That’s the sum of my advice. But in case you need clarification, I love parties. I enjoy hanging out with my friends. I like intimate dinners and casual chilling. I’m even down with spending a friday night alone. But if I’m not going to parties and meeting new people, I […]

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Trying to avoid feeling angry and bitter after having negative interactions with people

This weekend I became briefly irritated with a friend of mine and snapped at them. And when I walked away from the interaction, I felt appalled and angry and immediately started to try to justify my anger by thinking about all the ways that I was in the right and they were in the wrong, […]

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You know what is weird?

You have these friends, right. Your friend friends–the ones you can call and make plans with. And they have their friend friends–who they call and make plans with. And oftentimes you end up doing things with their friend friends–partying, going camping, going to the beach, etc. You spend a LOT of time with their friends. […]

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With regards to scheduling my social life, I have ten rules (that I admittedly sometimes break)

I am a big fan of rules-of-thumb. (If I was a more sophisticated talker, I might call them heuristics). And I have several rules of thumb with regards to how I schedule things. Now I’m a bit embarrassed to reveal these, I’m sure that almost everyone who reads this post is going to be able […]

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I know what it’s like to be unable to talk to people

Oftentimes when I give advice on how to be social, I can feel people thinking, “Oh, but he doesn’t understand. I have crippling social anxiety. For me, talking to people is torture.” And it’s true that I can’t look into your heart and know how difficult things are for you. I’ve certainly never had a […]

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If you try to passively listen to a conversation, then the participants will slowly force you out

On the FB comments for my post on including people in your conversations, someone said that talking to strangers hovering at the edge of your conversations might unnerve people with social anxiety and give them panic attacks. Which is fair. I know a lot of people who don’t like to talk. They just want to […]

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