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I know what it’s like to be unable to talk to people

Oftentimes when I give advice on how to be social, I can feel people thinking, “Oh, but he doesn’t understand. I have crippling social anxiety. For me, talking to people is torture.” And it’s true that I can’t look into your heart and know how difficult things are for you. I’ve certainly never had a […]

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If you try to passively listen to a conversation, then the participants will slowly force you out

On the FB comments for my post on including people in your conversations, someone said that talking to strangers hovering at the edge of your conversations might unnerve people with social anxiety and give them panic attacks. Which is fair. I know a lot of people who don’t like to talk. They just want to […]

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My advice on socializing is not meant for loud, boring people

Recently read this post on Ferrett Steinmetz’s blog about how every piece of advice can, potentially, land in exactly the wrong ears. And that led me to think about what the wrong ears would be for some of my recent advice on making friends and socializing. And I realized who it was: loud, boring people. […]

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I’ve never lived in a city where status competition was as naked as it is in San Francisco (and I kind of love it)

Only about a month left in my summer sojourn in the Bay Area. I’ve enjoyed it immensely. Other than in terms of weather, I don’t think the Bay Area is better than other places, but I do know about ten times more people here than I do in any other place. And that makes a […]

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