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I know what it’s like to be unable to talk to people

Oftentimes when I give advice on how to be social, I can feel people thinking, “Oh, but he doesn’t understand. I have crippling social anxiety. For me, talking to people is torture.” And it’s true that I can’t look into your heart and know how difficult things are for you. I’ve certainly never had a […]

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My advice on socializing is not meant for loud, boring people

Recently read this post on Ferrett Steinmetz’s blog about how every piece of advice can, potentially, land in exactly the wrong ears. And that led me to think about what the wrong ears would be for some of my recent advice on making friends and socializing. And I realized who it was: loud, boring people. […]

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Why I arrive at parties right when they start and sometimes leave absurdly early

When it comes to making friends, obviously the best thing to do is to go to lots of social events and talk to lots of people and be really charming and make a great impression on them. But if that’s something you feel comfortable doing, then you probably don’t need friend-making advice from my blog. […]

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Why I sometimes don’t believe in the stuff that scientists tell us

All the time, I’ll see someone on my Facebook feed be like, “Oh, I can’t believe someone doesn’t believe in global warming / evolution / the moon landings, can’t they see the obviousness of the SCIENCE?!?!” And I’m like, “Err…I do believe in all three of those things, but I have no trouble understanding those […]

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I do not believe that introversion is a real personality trait

The number of people who will tell you they are introverts is astonishing. You can talk to the most dynamic, engaging person in the world–someone with thousands of friends, who goes to parties every night–and he’ll tell you, “Oh, I actually find it hard to talk to people. And I usually prefer to be alone. […]

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